Every life, every love, every action and feeling and thought has its reason and significance: its beginning, and the part it plays in the end. - Gregory David Roberts .
No, I am not an old fellow , nor am I tormented in my journey so far. So, I am not supposed to steal this business of sermonizing on life from the experienced people with salt-n-pepper.
Everyone has own way of living and certainly mine is my own . I have been taught many a times by the incidents and I believe I could learn in a considerable extent. My idea here is to just share some of the bullet-points that could be worthwhile for others too. Again , I am claiming them as 'My top ten learning ' etc etc... because I know I am a passionate learner , So many more stuffs will come up in the list gradually.
Learn to say NO
Many times we land ourselves in dubious position where our decision is strangulated between our emotions and our willingness. Do what you really want to do. You know that you can't perform something candidly if you are not honest to you. Just refrain the situation . Be a naysayer when it is required to.
Just Begin .
Not sure how often you are victim of the kinds of procrastination , but I plan a hell to begin. I want to begin with perfection . Nothing in the history could have been accomplished that started perfectly .
And nothing can finish unless it is started. So, Just think a moment and begin your task . Ruminating too much on planning itself is like flogging a dead horse.
Don't judge someone.
Don't underestimate or overestimate someone based on one incident or on one skill. Everyone has some quality . Just learn the quality if you think it is worth your while. Someone can be very skilled in some stuffs while very inept in other. You have to transcolate the exact one when demanded.
Create a virtual world !
The truth is always harsh howsoever pleasant it tries to be . There is nothing wrong in dreaming and creating a virtual world around you . The world may include your favorite idols, friends and places that otherwise could not be included in your real world. If this brings happiness and keeps you motivated, there is nothing wrong . Make your life easy with smiles on your strands of lips .
Don't just follow.
Listen to all , but act what you feel is apt for you. Don't just implement everyone's advices or suggestions based on who advised you . There may not be any trick or self interest disguised in the person's word. However, the absence of trick does not make the decision apt for you . You must respect people's advises because you may get some light in them to make a good decision for yourself.
Don't try to please all .
Don't dedicate your own self to create a happy world around you in which you yourself are ransacked. Don't try to make others laughter at the cost of your own little smile. You can't do this if you yourself are sacrificing . Remember you have your own self and you are not rajma -rice.
Fall in love and emotions.
Love anyone or anything you can . It can be your passion , some animal, some girl or boy, some actor or some habit. There is nothing wrong in being emotional . Shedding tears of pain and happiness is the one important feature that makes you living. Don't try to kill the emotions within you else you will end up being flesh-bone robot only.
Avoid thinking too much about them.
What will people think or say if I will do this? Exorcise this thought from your mind. Oyr concern about others thought, their appreciations and their mockery don't lead us anywhere rather to self debilitation . There are two points . First, People whom you bother about too much have many good works to do rather than thinking and quoting about you. They come to know only when you achieve something . Second, If some people are really concerned about your business and have got ample time to do so , they will embark in your business even if you won't do anything . They have just a leather tongue to tell anything. You really have to ignore them . Don't take them seriously.
Don't pretend to enjoy .
Happiness is the best gift one can ever own . You should try to steal happiness from every flop of moment if you can . But. don't pretend to enjoy if yor are actually not. You just leave that place rather than to pretend . The happiness should be witnessed by your heart not by elongating strands of your lips.
Say what you mean.
You must have seen many people who use the words such as great, superb, beautiful, magnificent , impressive blah blah just for the heck of it . It might be possible that these words work for them and help them to make their assignments easy . But, I believe that don't overuse something so that it looses its very meaning . Don't keep admiring everything so that it becomes a cliche in your personality . Do appreciate something what you really mean. Your body language will help you very much in your loyalty to your expression and the people will value your words.
You can't fool yourself .
You can trick anyone in this world with a little effort, but it is impossible to fool yourself . This is very generic in meaning and can be used in many aspects . You better know what you say and what you mean. You better know that how much effort you made genuinely to achieve something . You better know how much you love or hate someone.
Everything doesn't have explanations.
It is very good to have scientific attitude and construe the very reason of happening. However, don't generalize your this attitude . There are many things which are beyond the ken of your explanations. They just occur because of no reason . You can't predict them by some theorems or principles. The existence of this world itself is one example. You can't say why are there so many stars and how the universe works so systematically. Does a child ask an explanation or proof to his mother if he is her child? There are many in the same league.
Make friends.
'No man is failure who has friends' I excerpted this from the last message of the movie 'It's wonderful life' . Once must watch this movie once. This movie shows you the very importance of your own life as well. Must make friends. This makes your life easy even if they are not very much useful in your life. Actually , the principle of friendship should never be the mutual utility but the sharing of similar opinions. Don't let a myth fence develop around you. No one is born great. I remember this quote in the context - ' There are two kinds of great people - One who born great and other on whom greatness is imposed' .
Don't get fooled by randomness.
You must have seen people bragging about their handwork, discipline and dedication to their success. The other myriads of people keep on shedding their tears for their bad-luck for their failure . Both the contrasting groups are nothing but hypocrites who keep on changing their position.
The outcome will happen what it has to and we are just a puppet to some driving force we never confronted. I am not advocating that don't do anything because you don't have control. If you seat aside , then too something will be the result probably but not certainly away from your favor.
But , One should not think that he was the mere factor in the outcome. He was just one factor.
So, don't get fooled by the randomness of the nature .
Can you throw a handful of sand twice with exactly same location of each of the grains? You were just a puppet . position is determined by some driving power.
Don't gulp in everything .
A healthy brain resides in a healthy body. You don't have to eat everything you come across. Remember you need to eat as much as your body demands. Over eating won't make you hyper active . You just keep burning your energy furnace with ample quality fuels rather than chocking with quantity of the fuels.
Don't reveal your plan before.
You don't have to make your plan public before it is executed. My personal experience has been that the number of hurdles increases if you do so. However, it depends upon person to person and the kind of the assignment too.
Stop living CV life.
You might have seen that people join some club , some philanthropy, some social activities and some donations just because they want to improve their profile. They don't enjoy them actually.
Some people are more concerned about their photographs than about their fun in the journey. You must avoid living a CV life just to impress others life long. A good inspector knows the difference between the genuine you and the you in your CV. So , it's better - Get a life!.
Sumit J
No, I am not an old fellow , nor am I tormented in my journey so far. So, I am not supposed to steal this business of sermonizing on life from the experienced people with salt-n-pepper.
Everyone has own way of living and certainly mine is my own . I have been taught many a times by the incidents and I believe I could learn in a considerable extent. My idea here is to just share some of the bullet-points that could be worthwhile for others too. Again , I am claiming them as 'My top ten learning ' etc etc... because I know I am a passionate learner , So many more stuffs will come up in the list gradually.
Learn to say NO
Many times we land ourselves in dubious position where our decision is strangulated between our emotions and our willingness. Do what you really want to do. You know that you can't perform something candidly if you are not honest to you. Just refrain the situation . Be a naysayer when it is required to.
Just Begin .
Not sure how often you are victim of the kinds of procrastination , but I plan a hell to begin. I want to begin with perfection . Nothing in the history could have been accomplished that started perfectly .
And nothing can finish unless it is started. So, Just think a moment and begin your task . Ruminating too much on planning itself is like flogging a dead horse.
Don't judge someone.
Don't underestimate or overestimate someone based on one incident or on one skill. Everyone has some quality . Just learn the quality if you think it is worth your while. Someone can be very skilled in some stuffs while very inept in other. You have to transcolate the exact one when demanded.
Create a virtual world !
The truth is always harsh howsoever pleasant it tries to be . There is nothing wrong in dreaming and creating a virtual world around you . The world may include your favorite idols, friends and places that otherwise could not be included in your real world. If this brings happiness and keeps you motivated, there is nothing wrong . Make your life easy with smiles on your strands of lips .
Don't just follow.
Listen to all , but act what you feel is apt for you. Don't just implement everyone's advices or suggestions based on who advised you . There may not be any trick or self interest disguised in the person's word. However, the absence of trick does not make the decision apt for you . You must respect people's advises because you may get some light in them to make a good decision for yourself.
Don't try to please all .
Don't dedicate your own self to create a happy world around you in which you yourself are ransacked. Don't try to make others laughter at the cost of your own little smile. You can't do this if you yourself are sacrificing . Remember you have your own self and you are not rajma -rice.
Fall in love and emotions.
Love anyone or anything you can . It can be your passion , some animal, some girl or boy, some actor or some habit. There is nothing wrong in being emotional . Shedding tears of pain and happiness is the one important feature that makes you living. Don't try to kill the emotions within you else you will end up being flesh-bone robot only.
Avoid thinking too much about them.
What will people think or say if I will do this? Exorcise this thought from your mind. Oyr concern about others thought, their appreciations and their mockery don't lead us anywhere rather to self debilitation . There are two points . First, People whom you bother about too much have many good works to do rather than thinking and quoting about you. They come to know only when you achieve something . Second, If some people are really concerned about your business and have got ample time to do so , they will embark in your business even if you won't do anything . They have just a leather tongue to tell anything. You really have to ignore them . Don't take them seriously.
Don't pretend to enjoy .
Happiness is the best gift one can ever own . You should try to steal happiness from every flop of moment if you can . But. don't pretend to enjoy if yor are actually not. You just leave that place rather than to pretend . The happiness should be witnessed by your heart not by elongating strands of your lips.
Say what you mean.
You must have seen many people who use the words such as great, superb, beautiful, magnificent , impressive blah blah just for the heck of it . It might be possible that these words work for them and help them to make their assignments easy . But, I believe that don't overuse something so that it looses its very meaning . Don't keep admiring everything so that it becomes a cliche in your personality . Do appreciate something what you really mean. Your body language will help you very much in your loyalty to your expression and the people will value your words.
You can't fool yourself .
You can trick anyone in this world with a little effort, but it is impossible to fool yourself . This is very generic in meaning and can be used in many aspects . You better know what you say and what you mean. You better know that how much effort you made genuinely to achieve something . You better know how much you love or hate someone.
Everything doesn't have explanations.
It is very good to have scientific attitude and construe the very reason of happening. However, don't generalize your this attitude . There are many things which are beyond the ken of your explanations. They just occur because of no reason . You can't predict them by some theorems or principles. The existence of this world itself is one example. You can't say why are there so many stars and how the universe works so systematically. Does a child ask an explanation or proof to his mother if he is her child? There are many in the same league.
Make friends.
'No man is failure who has friends' I excerpted this from the last message of the movie 'It's wonderful life' . Once must watch this movie once. This movie shows you the very importance of your own life as well. Must make friends. This makes your life easy even if they are not very much useful in your life. Actually , the principle of friendship should never be the mutual utility but the sharing of similar opinions. Don't let a myth fence develop around you. No one is born great. I remember this quote in the context - ' There are two kinds of great people - One who born great and other on whom greatness is imposed' .
Don't get fooled by randomness.
You must have seen people bragging about their handwork, discipline and dedication to their success. The other myriads of people keep on shedding their tears for their bad-luck for their failure . Both the contrasting groups are nothing but hypocrites who keep on changing their position.
The outcome will happen what it has to and we are just a puppet to some driving force we never confronted. I am not advocating that don't do anything because you don't have control. If you seat aside , then too something will be the result probably but not certainly away from your favor.
But , One should not think that he was the mere factor in the outcome. He was just one factor.
So, don't get fooled by the randomness of the nature .
Can you throw a handful of sand twice with exactly same location of each of the grains? You were just a puppet . position is determined by some driving power.
Don't gulp in everything .
A healthy brain resides in a healthy body. You don't have to eat everything you come across. Remember you need to eat as much as your body demands. Over eating won't make you hyper active . You just keep burning your energy furnace with ample quality fuels rather than chocking with quantity of the fuels.
Don't reveal your plan before.
You don't have to make your plan public before it is executed. My personal experience has been that the number of hurdles increases if you do so. However, it depends upon person to person and the kind of the assignment too.
Stop living CV life.
You might have seen that people join some club , some philanthropy, some social activities and some donations just because they want to improve their profile. They don't enjoy them actually.
Some people are more concerned about their photographs than about their fun in the journey. You must avoid living a CV life just to impress others life long. A good inspector knows the difference between the genuine you and the you in your CV. So , it's better - Get a life!.
Sumit J
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